Self Defence & Your Mindset for Success
1. It is never your fault… but it can be your responsibility.
When someone attacks you emotionally, psychologically or physically, clearly it’s not your fault. Blame surely rests with the perpetrator, not the victim. However, you have the ability to respond if you choose – to protect yourself and your loved ones, in that moment and in the future.
2. You are stronger than you think.
You already have all the strength and qualities you need to protect yourself. Women and girls have been defending themselves for centuries – and you have inherited these gifts to protect yourself and your loved ones. This guide can help you tap into that power and those skills within you. You don’t need a black belt. You don’t need to be Wonder Woman. You just need to recognise the signs, then stand up for yourself. You have the right to do that.
3. Four things you can do
a. Be present: Wherever you are, be there.
Being aware is your primary defence against emotional, psychological and physical attacks. If you recognise a threat, you can more easily respond to it, or avoid it altogether. The best way to recognise a threat is simply to be aware. There are two broad areas to be aware of – your environment and red flag warning signs. This tip will focus on your environment, which means being aware of your surroundings – being present and switched on, as opposed to “zoning out.” When we are fully engaged in the here and now, not only is life more rewarding, we are less likely to be targeted – and if it does happen, we will be better equipped to respond.
b. Unblock your ears
Blaring music in headphones interrupts one of your most powerful senses. Headphones also act as a subtle signal that you are not fully in the moment – and may even make you more of a target. This is not to say you always need to be 100% on alert and ready with all your senses fully switched on. You can still listen to music on a train or plane. However, try to be aware when you are not aware. Also, consider using just one ear piece.
c. Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness loosely means getting out of your head, and into the present moment. If we are always thinking about something else or some place else rather than what’s right here, right now, we are liable to miss the signals and warning signs that protect us. Also be aware how much social media is distracting you from the present moment.
d. Be wise to substances
If we are affected by alcohol or drugs, this lessens our awareness and can position us as an easier target, because we are distracted from the moment. Also, our posture, reflexes, judgement, and voice may be affected.